Olga Okunyeva
Matchmaker and Dating CoachHelping you making a choice with clear mind and open heard
“To wisely live your life, you don’t need to know much
Just remember two main rules for the beginning:
You better starve than eat whatever
And better be alone than with whoever.”
― Omar Khayyám, Rubaiyat
My Story
For a long time, my credo was Omar Khayyam’s words, but today, my motto is: “Make a choice with a clear mind and an open heart.”
I was always conscientious in my selection and could spend a long time searching for the perfect combination in everything I did. Surprisingly, I intuitively understood what “suited” each other, even if it went against generally accepted canons. It could be anything from a birthday gift to a relationship. At the same time, I saw perfectly what the market could offer me. Each time, I formulated my request in a new way to find what I wanted in the most unusual places and fill the need in meaning, not just in form. Later, throughout my life, I developed my emotional intelligence, which today allows me to subtly observe people and clearly identify their characteristic traits. I came to matchmaking in adulthood, when I had passed through the academic community, professional marketing, and IT spheres (although I still work as a delivery IT manager).
I know a crisis is when you have achieved a lot, are a professional in your field, and all career horizons unfold before you. Still, you cannot choose a person for a long-term relationship, and starting a family is postponed against burning projects where your participation and attention are essential. At the same time, I always followed my inner feelings – realizing my actual needs, being able to correctly present myself, and, as a result, being paired with a suitable partner was more important to me than just the fact of making commitments.
Even when I was just entering university, I introduced my roommate to her future husband, helped my girlfriends and friends express their feelings when they went on their first dates and chose a girl from the faculty for the competition who became Vice-Miss of the university.
After receiving a business education, I successfully pursued an academic degree. I developed the skills to quickly collect valuable information in all forms, created the author’s research methods, and adapted the latest concepts and models to suit my needs. Scientific thinking became my valuable resource for qualitative analysis, but I discovered my leading talent for matchmaking later when I began practicing emotional intelligence. Here, for the first time, I saw my ability to read and decipher emotions, what actual needs might be hidden behind them, and how to help make a choice that would be right for the feelings of a particular person.
The field of matchmaking has revealed all my talents and ambitions to the fullest; here, I feel the value and actual return on the efforts I invest. Private consultations in the dating field allow me to successfully combine my scientific approach with intuition and personal experience of interacting with men from the academic field, professional industry, managers, people in business, and entrepreneurs.
My Approach
In my practice, I combine research experience and a scientific approach with emotional intelligence. It is important for me to choose the right questions in order to hear from the client his deepest needs. My work process is based on modern concepts and developments in the field of social psychology and relationship psychology. Emotional intelligence allows me to competently decipher information received from clients and candidates, including in a non-verbal way.
Based on the Code of Ethics of MMI, Gaisteris complies with the following principles of Love Delivery
Minimum required maximum amount of information
When working with clients, we ask for quite a lot of personal information, including emotionally vivid life stories. This is essential to create the best match for the client. We do not ask for more information than is necessary for the purposes of the service, but we do not limit ourselves solely to statistical information.
Client minded
All agency actions and proposals are based on the client’s interests. We assume that the client has been honest with us and that the stated goals have no other intentions, so we focus on them. Achieving the client’s goals to the fullest extent possible in a comfortable, agreed-upon form and business process is a priority for our work.
Completeness and consistency
The client receives the most complete information regarding his capabilities, risks and limitations during the service process. We clarify all the narrow points and bring our dialogue with the client to a common terminology in order to achieve the maximum desired result based on the client’s understanding.
Confidentiality
The Agency requests, stores, and processes information sensitively. Personal information is used only for matchmaking purposes, is not disclosed anywhere, and is not accessible to anyone other than internally trusted persons directly involved in the matchmaking process (matchmaker, dating coach, psychologist, copywriter). The Agency does not share the client’s personal information with third parties or partners and does not publish information in the public domain that could reveal the client’s identity.